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Being a person living in today’s FAST world, stress has become a way of life for all of us. Providing Darwin’s theory of “Survival of the fittest”, we all adopt to this stress and go on with our lives.

Many of us have different ways of coping with stress, or of relaxing while some of us have none. Thus, the latter group is often found to be buckling under stress which manifests itself in various forms like irritation, restlessness, anxiety and hypertension. Following is a methodology of Deep Muscle Relaxation which could perhaps mark the beginning for those who have not yet actively taken any steps to reduce stress. Select a relatively quiet place. Loosen your clothing and remove your shoes and if necessary spectacles. Lie down on your back, legs slightly apart and palms facing upwards. Gently close your eyes. Take a deep breath, counting up to 5 and breath our slowly, again counting up to 5. Repeat this for at least 4–5 times. Start suggesting relaxation to yourself by using words like “Relax” and “Let go”, whichever works for you. Now try to concentrate on what you are doing, so that you can feel the difference between tension and relaxation.

Begin from your toes and move upwards, right up to your head. Concentrate on each part of your body separately and step by step. Clench or tighten the muscles of that area and feel the tension. Then gradually relax the muscle. Continue taking deep breaths and being relaxed. Feel the relaxation totally, before moving on to another area of your body. Don’t be in a rush. Do the exercise gradually and feel the tension leaving your body, as calmness fills you within.
Handling anger Haven’t we all muttered these lines sometimes in our lives? Over the years we learn or force ourselves to accept the situation but the anger within turns into frustration or resentment or bitterness. These bottled–up feelings leave us unhappy, lonely and helpless. Let us begin by controlling the all consuming, pervasive feeling of anger. A study conducted few years ago showed that expressing anger almost always made the people feel worse. They reported feelings like irritability, depression, aggravation, hostility, unhappiness immediately after their out bursts. Thus, expressing one’s anger does not always make you happy. As someone said, “Don’t lose your anger, nobody wants it”.

To manage anger, one needs to understand some points: Anger is healthy, provided it leads to some attempt at solving its cause. The idea is not to hide/express your anger but to tell the person who seems to be causing it.
To do this, one must: This takes us to the next point, that a Problem–solving. Once through time, anger is brought under some control, you can take on the 5 steps of problem–solving, which perhaps you are already using in other spheres in your life.
Let us have a fresh look at the steps and apply them to all the spheres of your lives: If it didn’t help, may be the person should go back to step
So keep working at accepting yourself, solving problems rationally and minimizing the adverse effects of anger.